Please be mindful of the fact that this Blog is 1) public access and 2) based off wheaton relationships: what you say about wheaton folk will probably be read by those wheaton folk at one time or another. So please be respectful and courtious in the way that you refer to people you may have known or known about at Wheaton, especially people of the opposite sex.
I'd expect this of all of us in any case, but especially so in that this is an open access community.
I hope this suffices to get my point across.
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Whoa, excellent point, Dave. I almost forgot. Yikes. Now I'm a little embarrassed.
I agree...I deleted many of my posts...and I guess a lot of comments that went with them!
hmmm. that is one way to do it: the old baby/bathwater approach :) What's done is done, I guess. hmmm.
Then this is actually like a virtual 611 during open floor.
except we don't allow the visiting women-folk to talk (which brings us back to that other conversation we were having).
which is why putting it all behind a "wheaton forum" sorta deal would be like "closing the floor" so the T6 boys can then talk.
ooops. In my rush I forgot that I could edit a post or just delete a comment, rather than the whole thing! I guess I just killed all of that great dialogue between Coye and Ryan...my bad....
I would hope that the talking would still be only such as is good for building up, as fits the occation, that it may give grace to those who hear.
Dave, you raise a very good point. Plus, we should be talking about people respectfully. Do I need to wipe out the post where Dusty brought up eHarmony? I assumed that you were just warning us to be careful, because you saw potential danger and some tip toeing on the line of appropriate until Dusty talked about wiping out entire posts.
Thanks for fixing that Strauss...now it's up to other people to remove their "comments" that involve names we know.
Yeah, good point. Some of that stuff that Dave said about Dusty's brother was pretty borderline.
Give me a break.
We still love you Coye!
"I would hope that the talking would still be only such as is good for building up" -Dave
I have to say I didn't take part in that child talk about how children have great southern accents, but....
You make it sound like anything we wouldn't want the whole world to know must necessarily be something unChristianly to talk about. Let me give a fictitious counter-example: "Please pray for me because I have diahrrea, so I won't be able to teach my classes today."
That is a legitamate concern that I don't want everyone in the world to know about, but I want you guys to know when I have diahrrea, or any other problem, be it bodily, mental, or spiritual.
My point is, don't give this link to people outside the circle!!!! And just because we say things we don't want others to read doesn't mean they are bad things to say!!!!! Let this not be a publicly-accessible zoo cage where spectators can look in and see the T6 monkeys scratching their spiritual armpits!!!!! Don't give the link to people who were not on T6, that means you Dusty (I know at least one girl you gave the link to, and I'm sure she's not the only one)!
Hold on! Before I leave for a week stephen, that was long ago at the very start, before everyone! I'm pretty sure that was the only time, and before I knew what the site really was...Anyhow, I will go subject myself to a week of living out in the woods. I will also make reparations by creating a secure site..adios.
Dusty is not the only one who let a girl in on the secret; I suspect that at least a couple other people, myself included, let information about the site slip out early, just because we were excite about getting in touch with old friends. Obviously since you can link to our blog from Dave's regular blog, Mrs. Jones has heard a little about the site if not read it. This site is public, and the Monkey gave us an early example that other people besides us might read.
Let's not use Dusty as a scapegoat, especially since we could have blundered worse before trying to correct ourselves. I apologize for my part in the matter. The issue of privacy did not dawn on me until we got to about c=circumcision, not that there is anything sinful about Jewish customs and cleanliness.
Are we correcting ourselves? It sounds like everyone was getting used to the idea of the blog being public access.
I'm not defending myself here. I wouldn't mind anybody reading any of my posts, even the C card ones. But because we were generally assuming that it was just us reading this, some people posted things that were COMPLETELY appropriate for us, yet not intended for an outside audience. So,...bear that in mind as you decide whether to distribute the link.
AAAHHHHHH!!! I have already learned the harsh lesson of censorship and group ostracisim. Let us not self-censor ourselves beyond the principles Dave has enumerated (though my current name makes this entire post rather ironic).
I have no problem with the circumcision comments. I'm not supporting greater censorship. I'm just saying that that is when I realized that something could potentially pop up in the blog that shouldn't be public.
I have no problem with the circumcision comments. I'm not supporting greater censorship. I'm just saying that that is when I realized that something could potentially pop up in the blog that shouldn't be public. Steve, I haven't distributed the link to anyone since then because of the logic that you already gave.
Ok, this is even more absurd now than it was when I went to work last night. I respect Dave's concerns, but this has turned into a lot of over-zealous, hypersensitive self-criticism. The only thing on this entire site that I think was inappropriate was my outburst of anger at Ryan, and I'm sorry for that. I am not sorry, however, for anything I said about anyone else-- including Dusty or any of our female aquaintances. I got to know Betsy and Annie relatively well my junior year, and while I was never "interested" per se, I think that they are both intelligent, beautiful women with charming personalities (and in some cases accents). I see absolutely nothing wrong in saying that: I wouldn't have a problem telling them that to their faces, so I don't have a problem saying it here. I think that all we're doing now is giving the appearance of impropriety where none existed. I agree that, yes, this is a public space and that we should strive to keep it (and everything) in charity, but I also think that all these deletions were more than unnecessary. And I think Mr. Satan agrees with me-- that's right, I said his name, and I'm happy I did: MR. SATAN!!! Oh, and I've always been operating under the assumption that someone else might be reading our blog, mainly because it can be really amusing to randomly brouse other people's sites.
AAAHHHHH!! Coye is the voice of reason!! Think no more about whether it is appropriate or not to discuss topics of interest!! Just do it!! And be more welcoming of opposing views, even if they come from someone whose name is unpalatable to you!! The Entity Formerly Known As Mr. Satan (TEFKAMS)
In the words of our patron saint, Crazy Larry...
Is this Biblical?
Speaking of Biblical, whatever happened to our 100 comment goal for Dusty's story?
I am so out of the loop. When did we talk about circumcision. You guys are deleting those juicy comments before I get a chance to read them. No fair.
"circumcision" is under "comments for Dusty's story", and I think it's still there in the January archives
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